QUIZ SCORING: HOW INTIMATE IS YOUR MARRIAGE

DO YOU:	RARELY (5 PTS)	SOMETIMES (3 PTS)	FREQUENTLY (1 PT)
feel like the only adult?
do for your spouse what he/she is capable of doing?
feel superior to your spouse?
commiserate with others about your spouse?
nag?
hear yourself say.. I told my husband… or I told my wife…
think like everything would be fine if your spouse would do what you tell him/her?
feel overburdened in parenting your child or children?
have recurring depression and anxiety?
feel exhausted?
find either of you disinterested in sexual intercourse?
eavesdrop on your spouse’s conversations?
feel resentful or jealous about your spouse’s victories?
reject or criticize his/her gifts?
fantasize about divorce or life with another person who might be a better match for you?
feel hopeless about your marriage because your needs have gone unmet for so long?
discount the reasons you chose your spouse in the first place?
get angry when your spouse makes a wrong decision?
have a hard time trusting your spouse even in small matters?

TO TOTAL YOUR SCORE, GIVE YOURSELF:
* 5 points for each “rarely”
*3 points for each”sometimes “
* 1 point for each “frequently “
* Add all three columns together for a final score(somewhere between 20 and 100).

WHAT IS INTIMACY IF YOU HAVE A SCORE OF 35 OR LESS?

You’re probably wondering what the heck you ever saw in this guy or girl! But not to worry—the tenderness you seek may just be dormant. If you can remember the reasons you agreed to marry him or her in the first place and start respecting him or her for those reasons, you can still have the relationship you always dreamed was possible. Find the courage to stop controlling your husband or ill-treating your partner today. You won’t be sorry. You can transform your marriage or relationship, starting now.

WHAT IS INTIMACY IF YOU HAVE A SCORE OF 35 – 60?

It reads that you are most likely overworked and underappreciated. It’s hard to tell because you make it look easy, but you’re doing too much and you need a break. Start to take better care of yourself and ask for help more often. Your vulnerability will be rewarded if your partner feels respected or loved. Thank your husband or wife for his or her contributions, and you will be on your way to igniting passion and achieving intimacy.

WHAT IS INTIMACY IF YOU HAVE A SCORE OF 60 AND ABOVE?

Congratulations! Your relationship is very intimate and passionate. You found a man you respect and a woman you love, and the two of you have a positive impact on each other. This union is a healthy mix of individuality and togetherness. You practice good self-care, you’re quick to apologize, and he or she adores you for it!